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´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷ÀÌ ½ÇÁ¦·Î ÀüÇÏ´Â °ÍÀ» ½ÃµµÇϰí ÀÖ´Â ¹«½¼À»À» °æÃ»ÇϽʽÿÀ. That means having earnest eye to eye contact as you open up your ears and heart, because communication can take place verbally, by action or body language. So, it¡¯s important that you understand all these forms.
Many dating singles have a lack of communication in the area of conflict-resolution because they¡¯re too busy thinking about their argument response rather than listening from the heart.
Don¡¯t forget there was a reason God (James 1:19) told us to be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. He wrote it in part to help us avoid the pain of making further jackasses out of ourselves. This is what happens when we are clueless and careless about what others are thinking and feeling. Which brings us to our next tip.
Dating Tip 3:
Rephrase your boyfriend¡¯s or girlfriend¡¯s feelings and words back to them. Rephrasing accomplishes several important things:
1) It¡¯s lets your date know that you are really listening, and are in touch with their feelings.
2) It ensures you that there is no mis-communication. Afterall, if you have to have a fight with your date, make sure you are arguing over the same things.
Here¡¯s an example: ¡°Sue, what I hear you saying is that you are feeling upset and hurt that I went out with the boys instead of with you Saturday night. It makes you feel sad that I would rather be with them than you. Is that right?¡± Sue¡¯s response back will then give you further information on how to address the problem at hand. Of course, if a rolling pin pops out at this time, you may want to run to the hills!
Dating Tip 4:
Commit to solving the problem together, which often calls for compromising on the non-essentials. This also means going over ¡°fighting ground rules¡± with your dating partner before a conflict actually arises. It may sound silly now, but it will save you heartbreak in the future.
Some suggested helpful dating ground rules on problem solving together:
1) Putting a time limit on ¡°the silent treatment¡± and/or anger. Remember, the Scriptures in Ephesians 4:26 encourages you to ¡°not let the sun go down while you are still angry.¡± It¡¯s your choice, but prolonged anger will destroy any romance in a hurry.
2) Winning an argument should never be the goal, but forgiveness and reconcilation is.
Overall, please understand that you do not have to agree on every little issue. In fact, could you imagine how boring that would be?
Finally, even if not currently dating, singles can still benefit from these dating tips by going over scenarios on how they would react in given circumstances in the future.















great tips. thank you
thank goodness there was a website that offered more advice than just ¡°sex b4 marriage is bad¡± i agree, but when u use a search engine its annoying to see the obvious and no real tips on arguing
Thank you for that advice on how to argue and fight. I needed to read that. I live in Salt Lake City Utah and would like to meet some Christian friends.